Health aNd Fitness Guide

Satisfying friendships are a greater predictor of longevity than even close family ties, and they can protect against obesity, depression and heart disease, according to a 10-year study of senior citizens in Adelaide, Australia. Here are six friends to keep on speed dial.

A lifelong friend: One who sees past your bifocals to what you were at 16. “These friends remind you that you are still the person you’ve always been,” says Rebecca G.Adams, a leading friendship researcher and sociology professor at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. Longtime intimates are special, she adds. “Who else knew your family when you were growing up?”

A new friend: Unlike old buddies, these companions have no preconceived notions about you. “As we get older, we can fall into ruts,” says Pamela McLean, a Psychologist in Santa Barbara, CA. “New friends ignite different kinds of thinking, fresh ways of being.” They’ll connect you to another network of people, says Rosemary Blieszner, a professor at VirginiaTech. “That can be useful if you need to change jobs or are looking for a romantic partner.” Find these relationships by trying unfamiliar activities.

A workout friend: Experts agree that exercising — whether via walking, golfing, or dancing — is one of the most important things you can do for your physical and mental health and longevity. A University of Connecticut study found that strong social support was key to maintaining a new exercise regimen for one year. Next, set a joint goal. According to Marcia G. Ory, a researcher at Texas A&M Health Science Centre, it’s the best way to boost the get-healthy payoff of a workout partner, because neither of you is poking and prodding the other, which is a recipe for resentment.

A spiritual friend: Being part of a spiritual community — not necessarily a religion — helps people stay resilient. People who regularly attended religious services or engaged in activities like meditation had a 50 per cent lower risk of dying over a six-year period than others of the same age and health status, according to a study from Duke University Medical Centre.
A younger friend: Studies show that an essential element of a happy life is to nurture and feel useful to others — by cooking a wholesome meal, or passing on what you’ve learnt through experience. A younger confidante may be able to recommend a CD to buy for your niece, or give fresh perspective on current events.

A friend who can empathize: A friend who’s going through something similar to your problem can help. Seek out confidantes who understand by attending support groups locally, or online. Help each other reduce stress by getting out of your usual routines.
Go for weekly hikes or meet for a monthly movie night — a little fun in the company of friends will get you back on course.